How can I ask the bride to be more understanding about body types when selecting bridesmaid’s gowns?
One of my best friends (15 years+) has recently asked me to be in her wedding only 7 months away. She is insisting that the bridesmaids’ gowns be purchased immediately. I am one of 6 bridesmaids, and the problem is that I am much larger than any of the other women. The bride is a size 8; all the other bridesmaids are between a size 4 and a size 10; I currently wear a size 24 (US sizes). Originally, she told me I would have a year to a year and a half to loose whatever weight I wanted (I’ve lost 15 pounds already), but she has now halved that by moving up the wedding. She asked for my input on selecting the bridesmaid gown, then refused to accomodate my request of having nothing strapless or sleeveless, due to the fact that while fine for thin women, these styles of dress look horrific on me.
Do I suck this up and spend the entire day looking like Jabba the Hut while everyone else looks fabulous, or do I simply withdraw myself from the wedding party?
I think all of us who have ever been a bridesmaid can relate to your dilemma. Even so-called thin girls have dress issues. I’m having 4 bridesmaids in my wedding who range from a flat-chested size 2, to a very large breasted size 16. I knew there was no way I was going to make everyone happy, so I chose the color and the designer, and told them to choose whatever they liked. I think they are all pretty happy about that. But it sounds as if your friend has her mind set on that particular style. Maybe she will compromise and allow you to wear a wrap (made in the same fabric, color as the dress) which will shield your bare arms/shoulders and allow for some coverage and modesty. The other girls could also get the wrap, but shed it at the reception if they want. Whatever you do, don’t starve yourself to get thin so fast, and don’t feel uncomfortable saying “I can’t be in your wedding” if she won’t work with you. There is nothing worse than being in a wedding in a dress you feel like crap in.
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Vintage, Simplicity 9936, Miss Size 16, Wedding Gown & Bridesmaid Dresses, 1972 $4.99 |
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Sexy Sweetheart womens short party dress Bridesmaid cocktail wedding gown $33.98 |
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